Touching is a vital human need and an essential ingredient for healthy relationships. Studies have shown that without touching, many animals – including humans – will die in childhood. Being caressed also lowers blood pressure and releases natural opiates in the brain, as well as the chemical oxytocin, which is essential for human pair-bonding.
Sexuality and Intimacy
A lack of sexual intimacy can destroy a couple, and if you value your relationship, focusing on creating deeper intimacy with your partner could be the best investment you ever make in your relationship. In successful relationships, couples learn to adapt and change together. They accept that change is an inevitable part of human life and support each other. Change due to illness and aging can provide opportunities for growth and intimacy. It may mean adjusting to a new way of thinking, letting go of things that have been familiar and safe, and adopting a new approach.
Sexuality and aging
Middle-aged and older adults no longer accept such myths as “Sex is only for young people” and “Sex isn’t important to older adults.” A study conducted by AARP, “Sexuality at Midlife and Beyond,” illustrates this. These are some of the findings:
- Five out of six of the respondents disagreed with the statement that “Sex is only for younger people.”
- Six out of 10 people stated that sexual activity was a crucial part of a good relationship.
- Only 10% of adults reported that they don’t particularly enjoy sex, and just 12% agreed that they would be quite happy never having sex again. Source: Sexuality in Midlife and Beyond
Greater experience, fewer inhibitions, and a deeper understanding of your needs and those of your partner can more than compensate for the consequences of aging. The physical changes of aging can provide an impetus for developing a new and satisfying style of lovemaking. When partners harmonize their breath and bodies, an effortless sense of intimacy is established.
Sexuality and Yoga
Yoga through its various asanas and breathing techniques help one relieve stress and relax and revitalize one’s body. Selected yoga asanas increase flexibility and stamina and the regular practice of them can redefine your sex life at any age. Unlike the western focus on single orgasms, tantric sex focuses on the benefits of prolonging the sex act for more intimacy, more and better orgasms, and for health benefits.
Aside from the obvious physical benefits Arthur Jeon, author of Sex, Love and Dharma: Finding Love Without Losing Your Way maintains that a regular yoga practice adds to your sex life in a variety of ways. Yoga can enhance your connection to the muladhara (root) chakra at the perineum and the base of the spine, and the svadisthana chakra of the hips, sacrum, and genitals, a connection that makes you more receptive and stimulates your libido.
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Sleep better and improve your sex life with yoga – a 2004 clinical study at Harvard Medical School showed that just eight weeks of a simple at-home yoga practice significantly improved sleep quality for the toughest audience — chronic insomniacs. It’s a simple exercise to connect the dots — practice yoga, sleep better, have more sex and better orgasms. Recommended asanas – Upavista Konasana (Wide Straddle Forward Bend) and Baddha Konasana (Bound Angle Pose, also known as Cobbler’s Pose).
In a small preliminary study published in Journal of Sexual Medicine, Feb. 2010, women ages 22 to 55 who were enrolled in a 12-week yoga program experienced improvements in several aspects of sexual function, including desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasm, satisfaction, and pain. For one hour a day, the women practiced 22 yoga postures (asanas) believed to have positive effects on abdominal and pelvic muscle tone, digestion, joint function, and mood. The specific asanas used in the study are listed in the chart below.
Yoga postures (asanas) breathing exercises & bandhas
|Sanskrit name||Also known as|
|kapalabhati -cleansing exercise||cleansing breath|
|yoga mudra||symbol of yoga|
|pavanmuktasana||hanging in the air|
|viparita karani mudra||legs up the wall|
|ardha matsyendrasana||half spinal twist|
|paschimottanasana||back stretching posture|
|uddiyana bandha -energetic lock||abdominal lock|
|pranayama -breathing exercise||breath control|
In Sexy Yoga: 40 Poses for Mindblowing Sex and Greater Intimacy, Ellen Barrett, popular author and instructor for New York’s Crunch studios, offers the modern yoga student a specific program designed to transform and heighten sexual pleasure and lovemaking.
Barrett’s program includes a series of asanas (postures) that use yoga’s combination of movement, breathing, and focus to release sexual power. Sensual, erotic, and guaranteed to improve sexual performance, the poses are also designed to improve one’s ability to navigate both the physical and emotional demands of intimacy. Rooted in the rich tradition of yoga but far from an esoteric Indian practice, the program in this book is suitable for everyone from new students to experienced yoga practitioners.